4 Big Lies You Probably Believe (& they’re making you miserable) Transcript

JoAnn Crohn: Welcome to the no guilt mom podcast. I am your host, JoAnn Crohn here with the wonderful Brie Tucker.

Brie Tucker: Why, hello, hello, everybody. How are you?

JoAnn Crohn: we’re talking about some serious stuff today that we see a lot in our balance coaching program, and they are about lies, lies, lies, lies that you probably believe, but they’re making you miserable.

Brie Tucker: Exactly. I’m going to hold back on the 80s, , Tell me lies, tell me sweet little lies. Okay,

JoAnn Crohn: Stop telling me lies. It’s a

stop telling

Brie Tucker: I know, I know, but that’s what, like, immediately goes in my head. Because we all… the problem is, is that at some point in time, we all have believed these, if we’re not currently having them run through our heads.

Cause that Bob, he’s a liar.

JoAnn Crohn: That Bob, that Bob is the voice we give to the thing in our head that is telling us not to do something, run away in fear, or, that you’re not capable of it. So for instance, if you’re thinking right now and you look at social media and maybe your friends are going on trips and you’re like, Oh my gosh, they’re so lucky they get to go on trips.

I could never do that. Or they’re leaving jobs and starting new jobs. Oh, they’re so lucky. I could never do that. Those lies might be in your head. And here at No Guilt Mom, we want to help you go from martyr to model. And you cannot be that role model for your kids if you’re not living your fulfilled life.

So we’re gonna… Talk about you today and we’re going to help you abolish those lies

Brie Tucker: .Kick em. You’re gonna help kick him to the curb, man. You’re gonna make him just go. I’ll be there. I

JoAnn Crohn: I’ll feed her saying I’ll feed her saying Adios a feeders.

Brie Tucker: Adios. See ya. Ciao. Bye bye baby. bye.

JoAnn Crohn: Yeah, but that’s what we’re doing on today’s no guilt mom podcast. So let’s get on with the show. so Bree, we all have fears. We all have fears.

Brie Tucker: Oh my gosh, I have so many fears. That’s why Brie has her own nickname, you know. Don’t move the cheese.

JoAnn Crohn: Don’t move my cheese, Brie!

Brie Tucker: I like my cheese where I can see it. And I’m comfortable.

JoAnn Crohn: This fear of change is new and it’s so funny because we are recording this just when we come back from Mexico and it was a fabulous trip.

Brie Tucker: It was. It was, it was amazing. This morning I was a little mad that there was nobody that made me a breakfast buffet. I’m like, what? What?

JoAnn Crohn: What? Where is my five varieties of cheese and fruit and breads and those croissants and your breakfast tacos, Brie? Your breakfast

Brie Tucker: Where is all of that?

JoAnn Crohn: Where are they? we were talking though there that both you and I have an overactive amygdala where we react really, really strongly to things and we have fears of things.

And I think this really goes in good with our fear conversation because both of you and I tried a cold plunge pool

Brie Tucker: I know. Well, okay. Because I kind of talked myself into a corner with that, with our episode with Tiffany Thiessen. She was like, cold plunges are amazing. And she sold me on the whole three minutes in a cold plunge is like a week of exercising or something to that effect. That’s what my brain heard. And I was like, I could do this.

And then Joanne’s like, okay, you’re going to do it. And I’m like, Oh crap. She’s calling me on it. I was like. I was.

JoAnn Crohn: So it was a 50, 50 degrees Fahrenheit, this cold plunge pool, and our friend Sheena does it so easily. Like Sheena, Sheena just walks in and she’s like, I’m in, we’re good. And so I go second, I’m like, okay, I could do this. And I walk four steps down and my brain starts shouting at me, hell no, you’re going to die.

And I like run out screaming. In this quiet spa environment, keep in mind that we’re going

like everyone else is

Brie Tucker: yeah, it kind of echoed through the spa actually. So that was interesting. And I was trying, I tried, I got like to my belly button and our friend, Shana was like, no, you got to get down to your shoulders, got to get that. And I started breathing really fast, started to get lightheaded, which it’s happened to me more than once before.

And I’ve gotten in cold water. I just can’t, I just, well, I couldn’t at the moment. We’ll say that.

JoAnn Crohn: If you have this, as we call it overactive amygdala and big reactions to things, we are the loud ones when we react to things. Your fears and your lies that we’re going to talk about, they may be very, very strong and you might believe them as truth. My brain believed that I was going to die in that cold plunge pool if I went any farther.

And the trick to that is to just be aware of it. And also having someone to coach you really helps. So Shana started coaching us and she’s like, what you need to do is you need to just walk in, just walk, walk, walk, walk, walk down underwater. And so I stood at the top. I put my hands over my heart just so I could feel my breathing.

And I was like, okay, walk, walk, walk, walk, walk down. And then I’m like starting to breathe fast and really thinking I’m still going to die. And I just breathed in and out. 30 seconds later, I’m like. It’s not so bad.

Brie Tucker: Yeah.

JoAnn Crohn: I’m okay. I’m okay. But yeah, noticing those things.

Brie Tucker: Yeah. I had to distract myself. I’m very, I, that’s my thing. When I’m dealing with a fear, I have to distract myself. I have a, I have a terrible fear of heights too. So I do the same thing with that. I have my little tricks.

JoAnn Crohn: Breathe, breathe, breathe,

or

Brie Tucker: Uh, no, no. Distract, distract, distract. It’s a, it’s all about distraction. I swear to goodness.

Like in a past life, I was a magician. Look over here at the pretty lights. Look at this thing instead. So we can do this over here.

Yeah.

JoAnn Crohn: Don’t, don’t mind the person behind the curtain. It’s okay. It’s like Wizard of Oz referenced there. So you have these little ones that keep you kind of stuck and keep you miserable. I’m very happy I did the cold plunge pool and was able to conquer that. I was like, I feel great after getting out of it.

It really does have great

benefits

Brie Tucker: I don’t know if I was as excited about it when I was done with it, with the benefits and feeling better, but I was at least proud of myself for doing something that I was really scared of. but you made a really good point. We have these fears, like some of the fears are huge.

Like I said, like my fear of heights, it’s a, a really big one. And I do know that it’s a lot of mind over reality.

JoAnn Crohn: of mind stuff. It’s a lot

Brie Tucker: But there’s also those little ones that we have that keep us from doing the everyday stuff. Like, we recently had a challenge in the group where we, uh, what was it? July where mom’s just want to have fun.

And we helped, mom’s plan and activity to do with their friends, which are some people that’s going to sound so easy. So simple. So whatever. It’s those little voices. It’s that Bob in the back of your head. That’s making you feel like you cannot do it. And, one of those fears is just that, I can’t ask my friends because they’re going to say no, and then I’m going to be embarrassed.

And it’s, it’s just going to feel silly. Or I can’t go and do it because I have to take care of my kids. And I’m being selfish because I want to do something for myself. Whatever those little tiny lies are, they penetrate so well.

JoAnn Crohn: They do penetrate and a lot of those lies are things that have been passed down to us through our beliefs, through what our parents believe through like common sayings. I mean, how many of us have heard that? Don’t burn the bridge. Don’t burn that bridge. I mean, hearing don’t burn that bridge kept me in a job I hated and made me wait to get laid off instead of quitting because I was so afraid of upsetting everybody else and burning my bridge that I didn’t take.

The action I

Brie Tucker: Okay. Okay. That spawns a little story. I’m going to tell just a little bit right now I had that same thing happen to me. I was in my, um, let’s see, late twenties cause I had both of my kids by then. So like early thirties and I was in a miserable job, miserable, so bad, going to HR, like I am being.

I was harassed regularly by my boss and the company I worked for, the HR, it was a small and the guy was like, what do you want me to do me to fire him? And I’m like, I want you to fire him. I just want him to stop. And everybody in my life was telling me that I needed to just leave. Don’t burn that bridge. It’s a, Brie, you’ve been in this career for like 11 years, and this is a big company in that career field in Phoenix. You can’t burn that bridge. So I quietly found another job and I left. Within six months, that same boss that was harassing me had gotten sued for going way over the top with another employee.

Like way out of line and I still feel bad at this point that like, I should have done more. I should have said more, but again, that whole fear of burning and a bridge that I can’t upset other people because then they’re going to somehow come back against me and it’s.

It can keep you there. It can keep you in those bad and bad relationships. Like, oh, don’t even get me started on that one. So, yeah,

JoAnn Crohn: The better the devil you know, than the devil you don’t

Brie Tucker: yeah, it’s so another point is like how we’re scared to, to explore something new out of fear of change. That, that statement about the, it’s better to deal with the devil, you know, than the devil, you don’t, that is mine all the time.

I’m constantly like, all right, I know how to deal with this difficult situation that I’m in or this person. Because I’ve dealt with it before versus a whole new set of circumstances that I have no idea how to handle or how bad it can get. And, that keeps us stuck.

For so long long

JoAnn Crohn: It does keep us stuck. And if you are running a business, I mean, have you heard this one? Money is the root of all evil. And I think that really gets to women in particular, because I see so many talented women out there who are undercharging for what they do, because. Money is the root of all evil and I should just be contributing and giving it all away for free.

Well, meanwhile, we’re stuck like working five jobs, taking care of kids and not having the money to do the stuff we want. So pay attention to those little beliefs and viruses that get into your mind and Make it really hard to go to the next step, to go to what you really want that could make you happy.

And we’re going to talk about four specific things that you might be telling yourself and what to do to get out of that pattern. This first excuse that you tell yourself and let us know. If you do this, I can’t do this because I don’t have the experience or resources. I mean, I think that

I hear that a lot, a lot. I just don’t know how I need to go back to school and get a degree or I need to, there’s no way I could ever learn that it’s too late for me.

And this keeps us back.

Brie Tucker: Yeah! Yeah! There’s a whole group of, like, so many of us have this, fear that, I’ve put in time, energy, and effort. It’s all gonna go to waste if I try to do something new. Or, like you just said, in general, that, what’s the other saying all the time? you can’t teach an old dog new tricks. I don’t know how to do it, so I can’t learn.

Or, because X is hard for me, Y is gonna be so much harder. And a lot of times X and Y aren’t even related! We’ll make it like A and W! They’re like nowhere near each other!

JoAnn Crohn: It’s A&W, but they are in root beer

Brie Tucker: Oh, they are! Dang it! Dang it! That’s a very good example right there.

JoAnn Crohn: That’s the first thing I thought of. Food. Food. Go for food. But this is really a lie that keeps people back. , it’s also a lie that ends to failure because some people start things and they don’t actually have the experience or resources. I mean, it is valid. It is a valid reason when you do not have the experience or resources to do something, but it doesn’t mean that’s where it stops.

if you don’t have the experience or resources to do something. Go find other people who are doing it. Go find them.

Brie Tucker: This is something that I think is like your superpower. You’re really good at this.

JoAnn Crohn: Well, I mean, I’m, I just think that if someone else is doing it already, they have already gone through the whole trial and error process. And so they could save me a lot of time, a lot of time that I don’t want to spend trying to figure this out for myself.

Brie Tucker: Well, yeah, and I think that’s that’s a big point because sometimes we’re just and we think we’re doing it by finding research by just like reading up on it like oh, well, I read this I read that and I’m not discounting Research by any means sometimes you don’t even realize that there’s a second level Of people that are like, Hey, I’ve done it and I’m willing to actually teach you how to do it more than just this blog post.

I wrote.

JoAnn Crohn: Yes. if you have something in mind that you want to do right now, maybe it is starting a new business. Maybe it is just having a better relationship with your kids or following through on a big dream that you have, and you’re not quite sure how to do it. It is okay to pay somebody. To teach you to do this.

You do not have to figure this out for free. In fact, when you try to figure something out for free, you’re gonna find a whole lot of conflicting advice out there. There’s a lot of stuff out there on the internet. That’s just plain wrong, too.

Brie Tucker: Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. our teens would disagree. They would say everything is, is true. Everything is right that they find, but that’s okay. No, I mean, yeah, it, you have to have that experience and coming from somebody Who has done it and can like, I’m just much better being able to have that back and forth too when I’m trying something new.

I need ask my questions. Yes, feedback! feedback.

JoAnn Crohn: but the most important part of this lie is that yes, you do need to find somebody who could teach you, but you also need to make sure that this somebody has the results that you want. In your own life. So like when I started the business, I went to, , Ruth Sukup, who’s a good friend of mine now.

She had this course called elite blog Academy. And that is how I learned how to make a website online, how to get good SEO. So people would find me how to set up a product, all my marketing knowledge. It came first there was elite blog Academy cheap. No way. have put things on credit cards. I have done all the things, to get this knowledge from somebody who has it with the trust that it’ll pay off later.

Brie Tucker: And it did.

JoAnn Crohn: and it did pay off. It paid off really, really well.

And so if somebody else has this experience, find them and pay them for it. And you’re going to get that same.

Results as well or something very similar and you’re going to get there faster.

Brie Tucker: That’s a perfect segue into our second lie because that’s, you, you just uncovered the second lie by talking about the first one. So you’re talking about how like the first one is can’t do it. I don’t have the experience. I don’t have the resources. I’m so scared.

The second one. And this one, my Bob says this one to me all the time.

I don’t deserve it. or there’s not enough time for me to try to do it. Oh yeah, this one just really gets me because it’s, this is the thing that keeps so many of us in this whole martyr stage where if we don’t self sacrifice everything for our family, anything less than giving up 100 percent of everything is not good enough.

And when you hear that, like if you’re listening to me say this and you’re shaking your head going, no Brie, I do not have that mindset. Oh, wait. Just wait. do you, not go out and see your friends because it’s too much to try to figure out, , who’s going to watch the kids, right? You, have you walked around with holes in your shoes or your clothing while buying your kids new stuff that don’t, that, to replace something that didn’t have holes or tears in it yet?

I’ve been there. I’ve done that for sure. there’s so many things that we do. And then there’s also just people pleasers, not doing something that, we want to do because we want to make sure that everybody else is happy. Yeah, I would say that’s a pretty common one. Yeah. I mean, , you feel like it’s your job to make everybody else happy and I think this is one that so many of us get stuck in and , we become so wrapped up in it that we just refuse to look at our own happiness under any circumstances outside of how it affects others.

JoAnn Crohn: Yeah, and that’s a hard, hard place to be in, especially for moms. that’s why when we go and travel, just like girls trips, I tell you all about it. I tell you about it, not to brag, to say, Hey, this is possible and this is something that you can be doing too. And that you deserve, you deserve to go out with your friends.

You deserve to have time away from your kids. You deserve this.

Brie Tucker: Yeah. I would say that was a big, big mindset shift for me was spending time. and money and resources on doing things that I really wanted to do and again, for me, it’s traveling and I’ve only, I’ve only gone on a few trips with my girlfriends, but each one has been amazing.

I was 41 the first time I got to go. Outside of the continental U S and we got to go to Europe and I was so excited. I so wanted to go on that trip, but it took a lot of convincing because I would go like, yeah, yeah, I should go. I have the resources. I can do this. And then I’m like, no, that’s so terrible.

My boyfriend at the time, we had just moved in together. How selfish am I to go on a trip without him to somewhere he would like to go? Mind you, he had already been to all these locations in Europe we were going to, but was like, Oh, you know, I can’t imagine going somewhere without him. It’s just terrible to want to do something without your partner or to go without my kids.

Cause they had never been to Europe, but. Again, I didn’t have the resources for everybody to go, but I could go on this once in a lifetime trip. So again, my, my point of all this is, it took a lot of convincing from other people to tell me, and I had to hear the words, You are worth it. you’re worth getting to do something that makes you happy.

JoAnn Crohn: it took some railroading, too.

Shana and I are railroading.

then you have the friends who are like, Brie, Brie, I’m buying the ticket. Brie, what’s your passport number? Just give me your passport number. And then you’re like, da da da. I’m like, Okay, our tickets are bought. We’re good.

Brie Tucker: Yeah. sometimes we, we really have to hear it over and over again. You are worth it. You are worth it. You are worth it. Because we tell ourselves we’re not. And that’s a lie!

JoAnn Crohn: Yeah, and that’s hard. And if you feel like you don’t have enough time, just look to things like, what can you reprioritize? What is of lesser importance? And I’ll tell you, nothing is of lesser importance than your happiness and well being. Because coming back from… A trip or coming back from doing something that I wanted.

Oh my gosh. I have the biggest smile on my face, even with talking to my kids. I’m like biggest smile, even with the boundaries that I set with my kids. I mean, I just, we just came back yesterday and already this morning, My son, he wants me to make eggs in the morning. he wanted poached eggs this morning.

And the deal with poached eggs is he does the toast and I do the eggs. , well he said something like, well, I don’t know how to do the eggs. And I’m like, oh, I’m going to teach you today. And he said, oh, does this get me out of doing the toast? And immediately without even thinking, I’m like, no, do you want to eat? And before I would have like gone back and forth, but just having that rest and having that self care. I’m like in a space where I’m like, Oh, nothing can hurt me. I’m good. I’m good. I’m feeling full inside. I can keep my boundaries.

Brie Tucker: Right. Because that time to rest and rejuvenate, we need that. We need that to be the person that we want to be.

JoAnn Crohn: Yep, exactly. So those are our first two lies and we have two more for you coming up next. So our, first lie was, I can’t do it because I don’t have the experience. Second one was, I don’t deserve this. There’s not enough time. Our third one is no one will like me if I do this. Also known as this is too risky to do. And this is a thought that goes through my head. A lot with changes, specifically how I show up in public as a business owner and promoting my business, because with no guilt, mom, I am in charge of marketing with no guilt, mom, I’m in charge of the Instagram and it’s important to show up and to put opinions out there.

And to be there, but something that held me back for so long, I was like, Oh my gosh, what are my friends from high school going to think? What is my husband going to think? will people think I’m being inauthentic and fake and they just want to be an influencer and they’ll just look down on me for that and they’ll be like, JoAnn’s not an influencer.

What does she know what she’s talking about? Like all of these voices in my head and it, it makes it hard to go forward. This fear of criticism that people won’t like me.

Brie Tucker: that is, that’s a huge, so I think, I think a tiny piece of that is that people pleaser that so many of us have, whether or not we want to admit it or not. So many of us have that people pleaser in there. But the other thing is , that is a legit fear , and I think not only what will other people think of us and, and our kids are people, but I think sometimes we put them in a subcategory.

What will my kids think of it? and that’s a serious question, not the, I’m going to dance like nobody’s looking and be silly and try to because I can do that and it’s funny and I don’t care what my kids think, but when it comes to big things, we do care what they think. We really do care how they view us.

And that little voice can come in and, and just be really, really upsetting. And so learning how to withstand and be strong to those emotions that other people are going to think about us.

JoAnn Crohn: yeah, knowing that you are not the cause of other people’s emotions. And another thing is , how can you mitigate the risks? how can you make it less risky? And the way I’ve done it with my specific issue of showing up in public is I have gathered People around me like you, Brie, I have a marketing coach right now, the wonderful Kim Rittberg, check her out on social media, who is there to support me in this and to be there and to back me up.

So I do know other people have my back when I’m going on. Now so that if I do come up with any haters, I have people in my corner and that’s how I mitigate the risks of going on

Brie Tucker: Finding your people.

JoAnn Crohn: Finding my people specifically for this one. Yes.

Brie Tucker: When you need to have that shoulder. Because the other thing too is that, eventually you’re going to get better and better at being able to be like, I’ve got this. I’ve got this. I’m worth it. it reminds me of that one thing from, Saturday Night Live back in the 80s.

I’m smart enough. I’m good enough. And dog got it. People like me. That’s, I mean, it was made fun of so much, but it was so true. Every day I want to have that voice come out from inside me. That’s louder than Bob.

JoAnn Crohn: And it comes, it comes, the more you take action, it definitely comes , even me was showing up on social media. I’m like, okay, this isn’t, this isn’t as bad as I thought it would be. We’re doing okay here. We’re doing okay.

Brie Tucker: our lie number four, this one’s another big one that I think a lot of us have and

JoAnn Crohn: I hear it all the time, all the time from balance

Brie Tucker: but I think sometimes we don’t even realize we have it until we’re trying to dig deeper on why is this such an issue, right? here’s the lie.

There’s nothing I can do about it. I can’t control it. It’s too big. I’m so overwhelmed. I just can’t even begin to deal with it.

JoAnn Crohn: Mm hmm.

Brie Tucker: And this is a lie that has some truth in it. Yes. Can you be overwhelmed so much so that it makes you want to cry at the thought of having to deal with it? Yes. Yes. You can be.

But in some cases we got to just, we got to figure out a way around it because constantly being afraid of this huge thing that it, because it’s overwhelming you, you’re not going to ever be able to make progress if you just let it stand in your way.

JoAnn Crohn: a lot when we think of overwhelm, we think this big project that we have to do, or like this big amount of stuff we have to get through instead of what’s just in front of us, how can we take the next best step to get closer to what we want?

Brie Tucker: Yeah, I call it, and you’ve heard me say it before many times, that’s my Step 20. when I get overwhelmed, my brain immediately shoots to, instead of, what should I do for step one? My brain goes to, well, how am I gonna fix step 20? And then step 22? And then step 35?

luckily I have enough people around me that are like, okay, but, That’s a little ways down. Let’s come back and just look at right here. What’s right here. Sometimes we need that. a lot of times, that’s what helps a lot with this lie when you think there’s nothing you can do about it, it’s too big.

It’s too uncontrollable and you need people to, to bring things down so that you can actually see what’s right there. an example of that. It’s something that I have to do because again, Brie worries about step 20 when she hasn’t completed step one. I have to make things smaller for me to be able to deal with it.

So for instance, I’m really bad at time management. I’m awful with it.

JoAnn Crohn: I, okay. I would like to check that comment that right there,

Brie Tucker: right.

JoAnn Crohn: let, let, let’s rephrase the, I’m bad at time management because I feel like you have the skills and thesteps in

Brie Tucker: Okay.

I can be bad at time management, but I have found tools and tricks that help me with it. And it is by…

JoAnn Crohn: not my strength, but

Brie Tucker: There we go. But I have, but I have learned like an example would be like every Friday in balance, we do something called time blocking and I typically run that activity. we’ll list all the things we have to do for the week.

And then I help people prioritize and help them fill out their calendar.

JoAnn Crohn: Yeah. so if you’re listening right now, the way Brie’s talking, do you feel like she’s bad at time management? does that make

Brie Tucker: Hopefully, Hopefully, not. I really do hope, I hope that everybody, that That comes to time blocking.

JoAnn Crohn: You’re like, I have to do this, this, and this. That’s time management.

Brie Tucker: It

is. So like when we’re doing it, we get to that last step of scheduling everything. I explained to everybody that you can do it on your, digital calendar.

You can do it on your paper calendar. Maybe you do both. And a couple of times people are like, why would you do both? And I’m like, Oh, I do both. And let me explain why. I like being able to see everything at a distance because I’m a planner. I’m a planner. that’s step 20 of Brie, right? I like to be able to know on September 1st, what I’m going to be doing on September 15th.

That’s just how I work. That’s how I help keep things going. But if I keep looking at September 15th and September 22nd, I’m never going to get through September 1st and September 2nd. So I have to break things down into what I’ve got going on for that day. So I have my. Whole calendar for the month, but then I break it down into small chunks for the day.

Okay. For today, I just need to get three tasks done. These are my three very important tasks. So that way it helps me kind of distract from all the squirrels and just focus on what is right in front of me.

JoAnn Crohn: Yes.

Brie Tucker: is step one? Step one is getting through today.

JoAnn Crohn: Step one is getting through today. Yeah. I mean, when you think all the big things too, it’s really, really easy to get caught up in the planning. And something important to know is you might not know how something will look in the end. So say, like, you may not know how your relationship with your kids will look like in the end.

If right now you’re fighting or With me and planning all the social media, I could not do it when it’s like, you need a content calendar and you need to have all these posts plan ahead of time, my brain shut down and it wasn’t until I’m like, I’m just going to do this day by day where my brain starts picking up and starts having all these ideas.

So sometimes it’s even better just to start with that step one with. Out knowing the entire plan yet because you don’t even know how to make the whole plan work yet. It’s more of a purpose. It’s more of a practice than an actual endpoint or a destination.

Brie Tucker: Right. And that’s the other thing too. I think when you’re able to look at it as what was my purpose, what was my main thing that I was trying to do, because sometimes we get so caught up in all the little stuff

JoAnn Crohn: Yep.

Brie Tucker: what makes it seem like, yeah, that there’s nothing you can do about it. It’s just, it’s too, too big.

JoAnn Crohn: So, we want you to check yourself and see, are you telling yourself these four big lies? And what this will do is if you decide to concentrate on one of these big lies, you can also tell your kids that you’re concentrating on this big lie too. And you can ask them for help in catching you in these lies.

So not only Cause I know it’s really hard as moms to transition from this thing of working on ourselves from always helping our kids, you’re actually helping your kids even more when you talk about your journey versus telling them what they should be doing and how they’re telling

Brie Tucker: Well, okay. So a big thing that a lot of us don’t even realize is that our kids, even as teens, when they’re like, I know everything and you know nothing, mom and dad, but our kids tend to look at us as the people that have it all together and that knows so many things. And when they don’t know that we struggle or they don’t hear that, Oh my gosh, they can totally work through this.

I bet I can too. Like that really, really helps so much.

JoAnn Crohn: And they will be listening, and they will be watching you,

so you’re doing good here.

Brie Tucker: because we all have fear. We all can face it. We all can handle these things. And it’s all about shifting that mindset and making a commitment to moving forward past these big old lies, big old lies that Bob’s telling you.

JoAnn Crohn: So that’s the challenge that I want you to do. Pick one of these lies you tell yourself and work on it with yourself. Work on doing the suggestion that we gave you. Tell your family about it because this is how you’re going to teach your kids. And this is how you’re going to be the model instead of the martyr.

And, if you want even more help with this, we have balance for you. Come join us in our balance program. Not only do you get us, but you get this amazing supportive network of women, the best place on the internet.

Brie Tucker: Yes. And every, every week, we’re always facing our fears. We’re always working on growing bigger and shutting down those lies that we hear in our heads so that we can have that support so that we can move forward. And, , something else really big is, , happening next week too. Right.

JoAnn Crohn: It is the mom ignited summit. It starts. So if you have not signed up yet, go to mom ignited, and that’s all one word com and sign up, get your free ticket and we will see you there. So remember the best mom is a happy mom. Take care of you. We’ll talk to you later.

Brie Tucker: Thanks for stopping by.